Are You Feeling Sad?

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When you are feeling down, its so tempting to focus on your sadness: you wonder why you are sad, you hate that you are sad, you wish you weren’t sad. Its completely natural to do this. But its the wrong way to be. No matter how smart you are — you will never change a bad mood by thinking about it. You will not magnify it.

Instead focus on your behaviour. Focus on what you can change. Go outside. Exercise. Quit isolating yourself. Interact with friends and family. Accomplish things. Your mind will reward you with happiness.

It is so tough to change your behaviour if you are feeling depressed. But its the only way. Don’t say: “I’ll act differently when I feel better.”

Act differently, and you will feel better.

– Humans of New York

Start Focusing

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A lot of people feel like they’re victims in life, and they’ll often point to past events, perhaps growing up with an abusive parent or in a dysfunctional family. Most psychologists believe that about 85 percent of families are dysfunctional, so all of a sudden you’re not so unique. My parents were alcoholics. My dad abused me. My mother divorced him when I was six…I mean, that’s almost everybody’s story in some form or not. The real question is, what are you going to do now? What do you choose now? Because you can either keep focusing on that, or you can focus on what you want. And when people start focusing on what they want, what they don’t want falls away, and what they want expands, and the other part disappears.

-Jack Canfield