We do so many mistakes daily but how often do we criticise ourselves ?
Most of the times people don’t criticise themselves no matter how wrong they may be.
So do you really think if we will point out the other person mistakes they will agree to it and accept their mistake? Well I don’t think so, at-least not most of the times. To criticise the other person is pointless because then the person will start defending himself and not accept his mistake rather will keep on justifying himself.
“Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance and causes hatred.” – Dale Carnegie
We all search for approval and we fear criticism.
If we will keep on criticising our employees, family members & friends for their mistakes it will demoralise them and the situation would still not change.
One night our housemaid (housekeeper) stole the money and sneaked out by the back exit . Next morning when we got to know we filed a complaint against her. When she got caught we decided to not scream on her or blame or criticise her for what she has done rather we asked her politely the reason for what she has done and we explained to her that stealing is not the only way to get money rather we told her that she would have simple asked us for the money if it was so urgent. The result was she understood this and we still asked her to work for us but then she was a changed person after that incident. Then she used to enjoy working.
Thomas Carlyle said, “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.”
So now lets just realise that the person we are going to criticise will probably justify himself or herself and in return would not agree to his/her mistake and would make him/her want to do the same mistake again and again.
So instead of criticising or blaming people, lets try to first understand them. Lets try to figure out why they do what they do. Thats a lot more profitable than criticism as it teaches tolerance & kindness.
“To know all is to forgive all.” – Quentin Crisp
“Any fool can criticise, condemn & complain & most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie
“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotions and creatures motivated by pride and self-love.” – Dale Carnegie