Inner Peace

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It is very important to be patient with your partner, your co-workers, and your friends.

We must give enough of our time to our children. If our child wants to narrate some after life adventurous story and takes our valuable time so what does it matter? If your partner forgets to inform you that she has made a plan to watch a movie with her friends after work so she will be coming home late from work or if she is late to pick you up from the airport, your mind should still be in control. It is love that is more important – the peace in your home, at your workplace or in your life.

Wherever you are, wherever you go, everywhere take your time also with yourself so that mind doesn’t get an opportunity to speed up because if you will not have enough of time with yourself your mind will get out of control. When you keep going faster and faster, that you even realise that your mind is racing and you are being heartless to the needs of others.

For example if we tell someone that they are being insensitive, harsh, cold-hearted or heartless. They don’t believe this rather they react with utter amazement and think, that kindness and they are never parted rather they think they couldn’t be possibly selfish or insensitive or unkind. And you know what I think, they are right. They can’t be unkind or insensitive and they behave like this because the problem is the racing, speeded-up mind. To be sensitive, we have to place the highest priority on slowing down and giving full attention to what we do and to everyone we live and work with.

When we slow down our mind from sixty thoughts per minute to fifty, to forty, to thirty, to twenty, to ten that is when we are able to see people more clearly. Even when we are in a close relationship with someone we don’t really see each other. This is the reason why we act insensitively, we hurt each other, not wilfully, but because we simply don’t see . In order to see those around us, to understand them, to understand their needs and reflect on how we can contribute to their happiness, we need to slow down the furious activity of the mind.

Learning to love everyone only comes when we remember the needs of everyone and then love comes easily. We simply have to ask : What will benefit my husband/wife most? What will benefit our children most? What will help us make a contribution to life? And we can only ask these questions if we’ll slow down, take some time out and if we ask these questions, we shall find we are learning to love naturally and that our happiness too is included in the happiness of everyone.

Feeling lonely

 

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Spending time alone is a gift.

– Tamanna C

I am going to be discussing that why is it important to spend time alone with yourself? People are not at all happy about this idea of spending time alone. Even if I tell them that I am spending alone time with myself over a cup of coffee, or a quite meal or a movie or shopping they find it strange.

And that is because from our childhood we have been taught to be in company of the people and society. So thats why we can’t stand the idea of being left alone or doing things alone. We have been matured to work together in groups which is absolutely normal and natural but that is what we are doing every single day and not taking a break from people to spend some time alone.

We are constantly surrounded by people and overburdened with responsibilities of other people in some way or the other. There is always some energies being exchanged with people. This is what our life has become, day-after-day constantly giving or receiving energy.

When we are alone the energy transmission comes to a standstill. Not that it completely stops but its not as active & intense as it would have been otherwise.

Initially spending time alone may feel strange & awkward but over a period of time your energy starts to neutralise & balance. You will definitely know when this is happening because then you will start to become comfortable in your own being. Before this you were simply not comfortable because you were just all over the place.

I am not saying when you are alone you will not be mentally and emotionally all over the place but it will eventually come to rest with a lot of practice. But atleast in the beginning the physical disconnect from the daily transmission of energy will take place that will help you relax.

This is one of the reasons why in todays day and age we are constantly tired either emotionally, mentally or physically even without doing much of physical running all around. When you spend time alone you start to disconnect from noises in your head and prioritise your life.

You realise all the things you could have done for yourself and all the things you want to do for yourself. You also become more and more aware to your own power and inner voice and be more attuned with your desires and goals and often even find answers to your problem that you are stuck in.

When you value your alone time people around you will began to value your time with them. Its important to understand the value of time and be in gratitude for the time that you get for yourself and even if you don’t get time for yourself it is your duty to take time out for yourself because in the end you truly deserve it.

Use Silence as your Strength 

In life there will be many people who will pull you down and tear you apart with their words.

They may shatter your wisdom, crumble your respect beneath their feet, look at you like you just dont exist or sometimes even convince you to believe that you are as bad and ugly as they think you are.

You are just a choice away from buying or discarding their crap. Just a choice away from becoming who they want you to be and then make a point about about how true they were about you. 

If you ever are in a situation like this use silence as your strength because in silence all judgments are lost and devalued

 – Tamanna C