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It is very important to be patient with your partner, your co-workers, and your friends.
We must give enough of our time to our children. If our child wants to narrate some after life adventurous story and takes our valuable time so what does it matter? If your partner forgets to inform you that she has made a plan to watch a movie with her friends after work so she will be coming home late from work or if she is late to pick you up from the airport, your mind should still be in control. It is love that is more important – the peace in your home, at your workplace or in your life.
Wherever you are, wherever you go, everywhere take your time also with yourself so that mind doesn’t get an opportunity to speed up because if you will not have enough of time with yourself your mind will get out of control. When you keep going faster and faster, that you even realise that your mind is racing and you are being heartless to the needs of others.
For example if we tell someone that they are being insensitive, harsh, cold-hearted or heartless. They don’t believe this rather they react with utter amazement and think, that kindness and they are never parted rather they think they couldn’t be possibly selfish or insensitive or unkind. And you know what I think, they are right. They can’t be unkind or insensitive and they behave like this because the problem is the racing, speeded-up mind. To be sensitive, we have to place the highest priority on slowing down and giving full attention to what we do and to everyone we live and work with.
When we slow down our mind from sixty thoughts per minute to fifty, to forty, to thirty, to twenty, to ten that is when we are able to see people more clearly. Even when we are in a close relationship with someone we don’t really see each other. This is the reason why we act insensitively, we hurt each other, not wilfully, but because we simply don’t see . In order to see those around us, to understand them, to understand their needs and reflect on how we can contribute to their happiness, we need to slow down the furious activity of the mind.
Learning to love everyone only comes when we remember the needs of everyone and then love comes easily. We simply have to ask : What will benefit my husband/wife most? What will benefit our children most? What will help us make a contribution to life? And we can only ask these questions if we’ll slow down, take some time out and if we ask these questions, we shall find we are learning to love naturally and that our happiness too is included in the happiness of everyone.