A lot of people feel like they’re victims in life, and they’ll often point to past events, perhaps growing up with an abusive parent or in a dysfunctional family. Most psychologists believe that about 85 percent of families are dysfunctional, so all of a sudden you’re not so unique. My parents were alcoholics. My dad abused me. My mother divorced him when I was six…I mean, that’s almost everybody’s story in some form or not. The real question is, what are you going to do now? What do you choose now? Because you can either keep focusing on that, or you can focus on what you want. And when people start focusing on what they want, what they don’t want falls away, and what they want expands, and the other part disappears.
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The reason why there is so little happiness in the world is dependency. And this is the irony. Because happiness is not dependent on ‘anything’ or ‘anyone’ or found ‘anywhere’. We keep delaying our happiness until things are just right in our life. We think we will be happy in the future and then wonder why we are not happy now.
Happiness is only possible when we are able to accept everyone as they are, at every moment, in every situation. That means an end to judging or resisting others, an end to complaining and blaming, an end to criticising and controlling, and an end to competing with anyone.
It is only when we choose thoughts and feelings that are aligned with our true state of purity, peace and love that we can shift – from asking to sharing; from holding on to letting go; from expectations to acceptance; from the past and the future to being in the now. We can create a life of joy, contentment and bliss, because we have the choice and the power. Happiness is a decision.
– Awakening with Brahma Kumaris